According to a recent poll commissioned by Newsweek, 21% of US adults believe it is acceptable to have a "work spouse", a co-worker with whom one shares a close relationship. However, 45% of respondents said it was not appropriate. The survey found that attitudes varied by age group, with Gen Z (aged 18-24) and Boomers (55+) more likely to accept the idea, while the majority of millennials (aged 25-34) rejected it. While such relationships can be platonic, Jon Bell, an employment lawyer, advised against the use of the terms "work wife" or "work husband" due to potential implications of a sexual nature. Emily, who once had a work husband who became her real spouse, warned that such relationships should be approached with caution and could indicate a shortfall in one's romantic relationship.
According to relationship expert Ceza Ouzounian, there is nothing inherently wrong with having a platonic work spouse, as many people have close friendships with colleagues. However, it's important to set clear boundaries to avoid one person developing romantic feelings. Additionally, having a work spouse can cause issues in personal relationships if boundaries aren't respected, with the potential for jealousy and suspicion.
Martin, a man in his late 50s, had a working wife in the past but was content with their friendship as she was happily married. He believes that having a work spouse wouldn't bother him, as long as it remained a platonic relationship. Ouzounian suggests that millennials and gen Z may view these relationships differently and may avoid using the term "work wife" or "work husband" to protect personal romantic relationships.