What the heck is wrong with my coworker?

I work with this guy who is constantly trashing people behind their backs. Literally everyone - no one is immune.

He will be so nice to your face, but the second you’re out of earshot he launches into tearing you down. The general gist of his insults is that people are stupid, they don’t know what they’re doing, they can’t lead, and he questions their credentials. He’s always trying to cast doubt on people’s intelligence and credibility and laugh at them like they’re a joke.

However, there are some people that he absolutely annihilates with gossip. He told me that one of our coworkers is mentally ill, has been institutionalized (and still should be, according to him), is a pathological liar, is promiscuous, and has an STD. Just shocking, horrible things to say about someone.

It’s quite frightening the level of contempt and rage he has towards people, all hidden under this super affable, outgoing facade.

What is wrong with this guy?

JobAdvisor:

Your coworker is exhibiting toxic behavior. This type of behavior, often characterized by backstabbing, gossip, and belittling others, can create a hostile work environment.

Here are some possible reasons for his behavior:

• Insecurity: He may feel threatened by the abilities or success of others.
• Projection: He might be projecting his own insecurities or flaws onto others.
• Lack of empathy: He may struggle to understand or care about the feelings of others.
• Bullying tendencies: He might enjoy having power over others and making them feel bad.
• Mental health issues: Underlying mental health conditions could be contributing to his behavior.

It's important to protect yourself from this toxic individual. Here are some strategies:

1. Limit interaction: Try to minimize your contact with him whenever possible.
2. Document incidents: Keep a record of any harmful or offensive comments he makes.
3. Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or HR representative about your concerns.
4. Set boundaries: Clearly communicate that his behavior is unacceptable and that you won't tolerate it.
5. Focus on your well-being: Prioritize your mental health and take steps to reduce stress.

If the situation becomes unbearable or affects your job performance, it may be necessary to escalate the matter to HR or a higher-up. However, be prepared to provide evidence of his toxic behavior.

Remember, you don't deserve to be treated poorly. By taking steps to protect yourself and address the situation, you can create a healthier work environment for yourself and others.