Earlier this year, a study revealed that 79% of employees feel they must perform to show they're working. Now, there's a new phenomenon called "pleasanteeism"—where employees feel pressured to appear cheerful and positive, even when stressed or unhappy. This trend is part of the growing "hush workplace trends," where workers conceal their true emotions to fit in.
Understanding 'Pleasanteeism'
"Pleasanteeism" combines "pleasant" with "presenteeism," reflecting a workplace culture where employees feel they must maintain a positive facade. Guy Thornton, founder of Practice Aptitude Tests, explains that this behavior is often subconscious, stemming from the belief that expressing emotions is unprofessional.
How 'Pleasanteeism' Can Hinder Your Career
- Betraying Your Own Truth: As a "yes-person," you might agree with colleagues even when you don't, fearing disapproval.
- Avoiding Conflict: Conflict avoiders go along with the team to maintain peace, even when they disagree.
- Manipulation: Some may use manipulation to advance their careers, acting as Mr. or Ms. Nice Guy.
- Insecurity: Insecure people-pleasers agree with the majority out of fear of not fitting in.
- Peace-Making: Those threatened by disagreements go along with the group to keep the peace.
Why 'Pleasanteeism' Doesn't Work
Research shows that non-pleasers and non-conformists are more likely to work for the greater good of the company, while "yes-people" prioritize conformity and approval. Maintaining a facade has a short shelf life before colleagues see through it.
Overcoming 'Pleasanteeism'
- Accept and Acknowledge Emotions: Be aware of your feelings and communicate honestly with your team.
- Embrace Disapproval: Learn to face conflict and see individualism as a healthy approach.
- Practice Direct Communication: Clear communication is key to a productive work culture.
- Stop Masking Feelings: Suppressing feelings can negatively impact mental health. Aim for a balanced approach.
- Consider the Cost of Inaction: Dr. Rebecca Heiss advises measuring the costs of inaction, as regrets are more painful and offer no lessons.
- Encourage Mental Health Discussions: Normalize conversations about stress and work-life balance to create an honest culture.
Final Thoughts
If you're ready to shed "pleasantries," challenge yourself to take risks and be authentic. Find that one area where you've been maintaining a facade and take a leap to embrace your true self. It's time to stop fearing the metaphorical crocodile and start living your career truth.
Source: Study and expert insights from Guy Thornton and Dr. Rebecca Heiss