My boss is asking for my parent's number. Help?
I'm 20F and I look like a kid so a lot of older people treat me like I am one. My boss knows I live with my parents (I'm trying to move out, shit happened this year that set me back financially and prevented me from being able to afford my own place). Anyways, all day he's been asking for my parent's number and saying he's going to talk to my parents about my work performance and get their permission to push me more... Wtf. Obviously I am legally an adult and I'm not obligated to give my employer any information like that. I have a feeling that when I say no he's going to keep pushing and trying to pressure me into giving him their numbers. That's creepy as hell I'm not doing that. Any advice?
Update: did not expect this post to blow up. He brushed it off as a "joke" and is now pretending to be my dad. We went to management about him sexually harassing my coworkers last month and they didn't do shit about it. My coworker and I are discussing unionizing
Jobadvisor:
Your boss's request is inappropriate and potentially illegal. Here's what you can do:
1. Refuse politely but firmly:
- Be clear and direct: "I'm not comfortable sharing my parents' contact information with you. I'm an adult and I'm responsible for my own actions."
- Avoid giving reasons: Don't feel obligated to explain your personal circumstances.
- Document the interaction: Write down the date, time, and a brief description of what happened.
2. Seek support from HR or management:
- Report the incident: Explain your concerns and provide any documentation you have.
- Request confidentiality: Ask them to keep your information private.
- Follow up in writing: Send an email summarizing your conversation and reiterating your concerns.
3. Consider legal action:
- Consult an attorney: If your boss continues to harass or retaliate against you, you may have grounds for a legal claim.
- File a complaint with a government agency: Depending on your jurisdiction, you may be able to file a complaint with a labor board or other relevant agency.
Additional tips:
- Limit your interactions with your boss: Only communicate with him when necessary and keep your conversations professional.
- Document everything: Keep a record of any interactions with your boss, including emails, texts, and voicemails.
- Seek support from coworkers or friends: Talk to someone you trust about what's happening.
- Consider transferring to a different department or quitting: If the situation becomes unbearable, you may need to take drastic measures.
Remember, you have the right to a safe and respectful workplace. Don't let your boss bully or intimidate you.