The “women in male fields” trend on TikTok is highlighting the experiences of women who date men—and it’s more than a little eye-opening.
Since the trend began, women have been collectively sharing the toxic relationship behaviors that they have experienced when dating men, and then satirically asking what would have happened if they had behaved in the same way. All to the soundtrack of Nicki Minaj's “Anaconda,” no less.
Here’s an example. “He sent me a paragraph explaining how he felt and I replied with ‘idk what you want me to say rn,’” reads one woman, sarcastically. Because, yeah, a lot of women have experienced getting that response after pouring their hearts out to a man.
Another wrote: “When I started punching the ground and balling [sic] my eyes out because I cheated.” Oof.
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Another big hitter—with 3.2 million views—reads: “He was crying in bed so I said ‘here we go again’ and turned around and fell asleep.” Also resounding (far too heavily) is: “When he tells me exactly what I’ve done wrong, so I say ‘I’m sorry you feel that way.’”
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Unsurprisingly, the comments sections are buzzing. “ARE WE ALL DATING THE SAME MEN?” one woman wrote, with another saying, “This trend makes me realize I’ve never had a unique experience.”
So the trend is at least making women feel seen (by other women, that is). As one TikToker put it: “[The] women in male fields trend is teaching women that it’s not our fault. It’s the subtle guide to red flags.” For others, it’s a way of at least being able to poke fun at such experiences.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, there has since been a “men in female fields” spin-off trend on TikTok, in which men share experiences from their own relationships with women. Some are tongue-in-cheek, some not so much. Touched a nerve, perhaps?
Either way, you can expect your FYP to be filled with far-too-relatable relationship stories for the foreseeable…and “Anaconda” on repeat.