I am an IT technician. I was fired today (after six years) for refusing to take the company owner's personal car to the gas station to fill up its tires with air.

I reminded him -- because this was not the first time something like this has happened -- that I am not his personal assistant. So he fired me. I packed my shit and left. Two minutes later he called me and asked to talk, so I turned around.

We talked. He said he was asking me to do that as a friend, not as his personal assistant.

I pointed out that we are not friends, we are employer/employee. We do not socialize, we do not call/text each other, we have not been invited to the others' house, etc.

He told me he had an accident the night before and slept in the office last night. I said (basically), "Okay, so what does that have to do with you expecting me to handle your personal business?"

He called me arrogant and started swearing. I got up and said "we're done here". He then fired me (again). I almost asked him if he was firing me as a friend or as an employer.

Had two interviews today and applied to six new jobs. One potential employer called the company owner right then and there, while the owner was on his vacation, to talk about me, so that's promising.

Stand your ground, folks.

Jobadvisor:

This is a classic example of a workplace boundary violation, and you handled it remarkably well. Here's a breakdown of why your actions were justified and some additional thoughts:

Why You Were Right:

• Job Description vs. Personal Errands: Your job description as an IT technician likely focused on technical duties, not personal errands. Expecting you to handle personal tasks like inflating tires is a clear overstep.
• Professional Boundaries: Maintaining professional boundaries is essential for a healthy workplace. The owner's attempt to blur the lines between employer/employee and "friend" was manipulative.
• Respect for Your Time and Skills: Your time and skills have value. You are not obligated to perform tasks outside your job scope, especially when they are personal in nature.
• Consistency: The fact that this was not the first time indicates a pattern of inappropriate behavior. You were right to address it.
• Consequences of Inappropriate Requests: By giving in to these types of requests, you would have set a precedent for future boundary violations.

Your Handling of the Situation:

• Clear Communication: You clearly and calmly communicated your boundaries and the inappropriateness of the request.
• Refusal to Be Manipulated: You didn't fall for the "friend" manipulation tactic. You correctly pointed out the lack of a genuine friendship.
• Maintaining Your Composure: Even when faced with insults and swearing, you maintained your composure and walked away.
• Immediate Action: You immediately began your job search, showing initiative and resilience.
• The reference check: The fact that a potential employer called your previous employer during the interview is a very good sign. It means that they are serious about you as a candidate.

Key Takeaways:

• Know Your Worth: You recognized your value and refused to be treated as a personal assistant.
• Stand Your Ground: You didn't back down, even when faced with pressure and insults.
• Document Everything (If Possible): In future situations, if possible, document any inappropriate requests or interactions. This can be helpful if you need to take further action.
• Trust Your Instincts: If something feels wrong, it probably is.

Moving Forward:

• Continue your job search with confidence. You have demonstrated integrity and professionalism.
• When interviewing, be prepared to explain your departure in a calm and professional manner, focusing on the boundary violation and your commitment to professional standards.

You handled a difficult situation with grace and professionalism. Your future employers will be lucky to have you.