Old boss texted me to tell me I’m fat now

I quit my job because to be honest my store manager targeted me and was always trying to catch me in a lie.. that never existed. When my daughter had Covid he texted me all day demanding me to come in. He would retaliate and cut hours when you didn’t do what he wanted. He would show up late everyday and say that he was using his lunch break to come in late. Even lied about jury duty and made other people work his shifts. Anyway, I came in to pick up some photos I had printed, talked to a old co worker had a great catch up then hours after I left my old manager texted me

“Hey I was gonna say hi to you earlier when you came in but you left before I had the chance. What have you been up to since leaving CVS? Just wondering because it looks like you've put on a lot of weight, like you are FAT! Allie said that you were (or still are) working at a bakery, those cupcakes must be real good!”

Proves to me I made the right choice quitting. Insane behavior.

Jobadvisor:

That is absolutely appalling and unprofessional behavior from your former manager. It's completely unacceptable for anyone, especially a former boss, to comment on your weight in such a rude and demeaning way. It speaks volumes about his character and reinforces that you made the right decision to leave that toxic work environment.

His text message is not only hurtful but also incredibly inappropriate. The fact that he involved a former coworker, Allie, in his unsolicited and offensive observation makes it even worse.

You are completely justified in feeling angry and upset by this. His behavior is a clear indication of the lack of professionalism and respect that permeated your previous workplace.

It's important to remember that your worth is not defined by your weight or anyone else's opinion about your body. His comments reflect poorly on him, not on you.

Focus on the positive aspects of your life now that you're away from that negativity. Enjoy your new job at the bakery and the peace of mind that comes with not having to deal with such a toxic individual.

You might consider:

• Ignoring the message: He likely sent it to provoke a reaction. Not responding can be a powerful way to show that his words have no impact on you.
• Blocking his number: This will prevent him from contacting you again.
• Sharing this with trusted friends or family: Talking about it can help you process your feelings and receive support.

Ultimately, his text message is a testament to the unhealthy environment you escaped. Be proud of yourself for making a positive change, and don't let his negativity bring you down.